We tend to externalise our challenges and keep hoping for others to change. That's unlikely to materialise. The reality is, the change is within us. Ask yourself, 'Is my manager too demanding or am I not courageous enough to express myself and my needs' or 'Is that colleague not trustworthy or am I not being collaborative' or 'Is that team member not driven enough or have I not been able to inspire him'? 'Have my children stopped listening to me or do I no longer understand their needs'? Which one is the truth?